“…let us not [only] love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.” 1 John 3:18
Over the past several months I have been reviewing the 5 Wishes Living Will. If you recall
Wish 1 deals with Medical Treatment or desire for no treatment.
Wish 2 deals with how comfortable you want to be during your final days.
Wish 3 deals with how you want people to treat you.
Wish 4 is your wish for how you want people to treat you: If you wish for people to be with you, hold your hand, and talk to you. If you wish to have clergy or chaplain visit. If you wish to have people praying for you and be on the church prayer list. If you wish to have pictures of family at your bedside. If you wish to have your favorite music playing. If you wish to be called by your name. If you wish to die at home if possible.
Wish 5 is your wish for what you want your loved ones to know. If you wish to have family and friends know you love them. If you wish to be forgiven for the times you have hurt others. If you wish to have family members make peace with one another. If you wish for your family and friends to think about you as the way you were before you were seriously ill and remember you that way. If you wish for others to respect your wishes. If you want others to look at this time as a time of personal growth. If you wish for their memories of you to be of joy not sorrow. If you wish to be cremated or buried. The location for your final remains. And any wishes about a funeral or celebration of life.
The template for the 5 Wishes document can be found at 5 Wishes.org. If you have questions or would like to discuss the 5 Wishes further, please let me know.
How fortunate we are to have celebrated Easter this past month. Because of our faith we can confidently say God keeps His promises. We have an exit plan. To borrow the words of a Dolly Parton song “He’s alive and I’m forgiven. Heaven’s gates are open wide. He’s Alive! Alleluia!
Carolyn D. Pauling PhD RN